This newsletter talks about three things today: audiobooks, my 25th wedding anniversary, and Walter No. It’s shorter than normal because I am on vacation with my hot, intense, hilarious boyfriend (AKA Clark).
Let’s start in order:
Audiobook Awesomeness!
I’m part of a 15-author AUDIO BUNDLE DEAL! Every single audiobook in this special promotion is a BUNDLE, with 20+ hours of listening pleasure for you… with an emphasis on pleasure. ;)
Each bundle is only 1 credit on Audible, so if you listen there, this is a screaming hot deal. My book is the Random Series Boxed Set, Books 1-3, with Sebastian York, Andi Arndt, and Tad Branson as narrators.
But that’s just 1 of the FIFTEEN options.
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Our Silver Anniversary
We married at, um, 17… :P
Actually, we were 28 and 32, young and deeply in love:
Our wedding day in 1998. More about our wedding itself in a future story!
Over the years, we really got more serious.
2008, Winter Harbor, Maine. Vacation. Picture taken by either a 9 or 6 year old child of ours. We pay for their therapy now.
And we just continued to get more and more dour and maudlin:
2016, DisneyWorld. I FOUND OLD LUKE! Turns out I married him OMG!
By 2019, we were so miserable in Paris. So sad. So despondent:
2019 Paris. We had so much fun, especially visiting our friends Olivia Rigal and her husband.
And by 2022, we were shells of our former selves:
2022, another picture taken by yet another human being we created. Our 13 yo holds the camera well!
We are in northern Vermont right now, listening to birds in the wildflower meadows nearby, and I am sitting across from the man I married 25 years ago, still in love. We haven’t aged ONE BIT since 1998 LOL.
This has been a week of reflection, one where old memories surface hourly, and where we contemplate deeply our commitment to each other, often marveling at how different we both are, yet the same after all these years. When you marry someone, you become traveling partners, but the journey isn’t about going to a specific place.
It’s about being a place. Being someone else’s home.
Clark is not the man I married half a lifetime ago, and I’m damn well not who I was in 1998. Yet… we are. We’ve grown together, walking parallel paths but always within sight of each other. Sometimes the trails diverge more than others, sometimes they intersect, but they’ve always gone in the same direction for more than a quarter century.
Thank goodness.
Both of us were raised by single mothers in the 1970s and 1980s, a time of great change, and this morning it hit us:
Our respective parents were only married for 12 years, each couple.
We’ve “out married” both of our sets of parents, total.
It hasn’t been easy. No marriage is. The old saying that the only people who know what happens in a marriage are the two people in it is so, so true. Every so often, people erroneously think our relationship has been smooth sailing from the beginning because we’re still so in love, but they couldn’t be more wrong.
Love should be enough, but it isn’t.
Commitment should be enough, but it isn’t.
Kindness should be enough, but it isn’t.
Empathy should be enough, but it isn’t.
Shared values should be enough, but…
You get the drift.
I don’t have some magic spell that guarantees relationship longevity. We’re each other’s best friends. We’re each other’s nemeses (no, really…). To each other, we are lovers, co-parents, business partners, roommates, competitors, teachers, obstacles, coaches, critics, fans, therapists, cheerleaders — and as I told him this morning, he’s embedded in my DNA.
(He then commented that given how much of his DNA he’s deposited in me [ahem], he believes that’s true…)
Humor might be enough! Maybe that’s the secret :P .
We’ve laughed our way to 25 years of marriage (nearly 27 years total, more than half my life now with him as my soulmate).
Here’s to a hilarious 25 more… <3
Walter No
Need a little fix of Walter? Head on over to my Facebook group, Laugh Your Way to Love with Julia, for a cute little video.
You two are just so stinking cute!! Hope you are having a fantastic time away - happy, happy anniversary!
Happy Anniversary!